Updated: Mar 19
Ever been on a date with someone and felt like you were speaking entirely different languages? You’re cracking jokes, they’re checking their emails. They bring you a pricey bottle of wine, but you were hoping for a sweet compliment instead. Awkward. The truth is, we all express and receive love in different ways, and when those don’t align, dating can feel like trying to dating can feel like decoding a mystery.
That’s where love languages come in!
Dr. Gary Chapman’s concept of The 5 Love Languages has transformed how we understand relationships. Knowing your love language (and your partner’s) helps you connect better, communicate more effectively, and avoid those awkward “are we even compatible?” moments.
So, before you swipe right again, let’s explore how your love language could be the key to finding ‘The One’, or at least avoiding another dating disaster.
Can Your Love Language Predict Your Perfect Match?
Well, kind of. While love languages aren’t an exact science, they do reveal what makes you feel valued and whether your date speaks your language.
Words of Affirmation
You live for compliments, sweet texts, and deep convos. A simple “You looked amazing tonight” makes your heart do backflips (bonus points if they text you “good morning” every day).
Potential mismatch? If your date is the strong, silent type, you might be left wondering if they even like you.
Acts of Service
You’ll melt for someone who does little things to make your life easier. Nothing says “I like you” like someone fixing your Wi-Fi or bringing you coffee unprompted.
Potential mismatch? A partner who never follows through on plans or seems indifferent to helping could be frustrating.
Receiving Gifts
You appreciate thoughtful surprises, a handwritten note, your favorite snack, or a surprise gift, whether big or small, shows someone’s thinking about you, and that truly melts your heart.
Potential mismatch? If your date believes “love isn’t about material things,” you might feel neglected, even if they love you in other ways.
Quality Time
You don’t care what you’re doing, as long as you’re together. You love uninterrupted, meaningful time together. Long convos, spontaneous adventures, or just being together.
Potential mismatch? If your partner is always “too busy” or glued to their phone, you might feel ignored.
Physical Touch
Hugs, hand-holding, and physical closeness make you feel connected and secure.
Potential mismatch? If your partner is reserved or not into PDA, you might struggle to feel loved.
Take the Quiz: What’s Your Love Language?
Curious to find out yours? Answer these questions!
What makes you feel most loved?
a) Hearing “I appreciate you” or sweet compliments
b) When my partner does things to help me
c) Thoughtful gifts and surprises
d) Spending quality time together
e) Holding hands, hugs, or cuddles
On your dream date, your partner would…
a) Write me a heartfelt note or give compliments
b) Plan everything and handle the details
c) Surprise me with a small gift
d) Spend quality time with no distractions
e) Be affectionate and close
If you're having a bad day, what makes you feel better?
a) Encouraging words and reassurance
b) Someone taking care of a task so I can relax
c) A little thoughtful gift to cheer me up
d) Someone spending time with me, just being there
e) A long, comforting hug
Results:
Mostly A’s? You thrive on Words of Affirmation.
Mostly B’s? Acts of Service. Thoughtful actions mean more than words and make your heart happy.
Mostly C’s? Gifts are your love language (and that’s totally fine!).
Mostly D’s? Quality Time is what you need to feel loved.
Mostly E’s? Physical Touch is your thing—hugs, cuddles, all of it.
So… Now What?
Understanding your love language helps you recognise what you need in a relationship, and what your date needs too!
Dating tip: Don’t panic if your date has a different love language! The key isn’t finding an exact match but learning how to show up for each other in ways that matter.
What’s your go-to love language? Drop a comment below
